i can’t recommend anything except using two hands for handjobs, and using them in interesting ways - perhaps you could alternate movements with separated hands
instead of fitting him all in your mouth which is clearly too difficult you could try sucking just the head while using my hands to get him off - also you could possible lick, kiss and suck his member all over while using your hands
use LARGE amounts of lubricant. and avoid doggy style because it allows deeper penetration and is better for smaller men. sex with a large penis in this position can be quite painful. practice missionary, on top or on side - sex in the missionary position will be more comfortable if your partner has a big penis. at positions where you are above, it allows you to control the depth of the penetration. the “on the side” position is also good because they cannot fully penetrate you. and last but not least, go slowly and take your time. make sure you’re fully aroused, relaxed and ready as if you are tense or stressed about what is to come it can make things more painful and/or difficult for the both of you.
i hope this helped, good luck and be safe!!!
here are some steps on how to shave your pubic hair and minimize the risk of razor rash, ingrown hairs, etc.
- pre-trim your pubic hair
- soften the hair/hair follicles by taking a hot shower/bath which will make thick, coarse pubic hair a lot easier to shave off
- avoid irritation by using foam, cream or gel
- shave slowly and gently - shave in the same direction as your pubic hair growth as shaving with the growth causes the hairs to be cut at an angle, allowing ingrown hairs can be formed. shaving against the grain may give you a closer shave, but it can also cause ingrown hairs and irritation.
- exfoliatewith your normal body soap, gently cleanse your pubic area because this will help to remove anything that might block your pores and lead to ingrown hairs and infections.
- rinse, gently pat dry and moisturise with aloe vera, baby oil, or moisturizers designed for sensitive areas can be used but avoid moisturizers that may contain fragrances!!
i hope this helped, good luck!!!
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also the how-to give to a mindblowing blowjob guide proved popular and i thought it would be helpful to give how-to guides or in some cases explanation information sheets on other aspects of sex and sexuality. i’ve composed a list of the following topics and every couple of days a guide for one of these topics will be uploaded:
- losing your virginity
- hand jobs
- guides on various sexual positions
- anal sex
- sexual health and hygiene
- sex toys/visiting a sex store
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i’ve also enlisted a male to write about the various topics related to male sexual aspects that i will not have a first hand understanding of so that’s good news.
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the first thing you have to know is that the concept of virginity is created by society to put women in a box and that this is no actual medical term for what constitutes “virginity” itself
i think it comes down to what you think virginity is - is it the first time you have penetrative sex? is it the first time you have any genital-on-genital contact? it entirely comes down to you what you deem to be your virginity and what you consider it to be.
my friends uses the “first time you climax during sex” as the virginity rule but that is just her and i think that is probably a good rule to use although i still consider the time that i had penetrative sex for the first time to be when i lost my virginity
i hope this helped you understand that the concept of virginity really just is what you make of it and understand of it, i hope you manage to come to an understanding soon!
with all the different contraception options available it’s easy to get a bit overwhelmed, but don’t stress! if you are worried or unsure about ANYTHING related to sex, you should definitely ask an older friend that you trust about it, your mum or maybe a favourite aunt or cousin.
if you are thinking about having sex, it’s always a good idea to get clued up on what you are about to get involved with and all the different types of contraception that you can use:
- also known as rubbers, wrappers, doms, love gloves, johnnies, raincoats, etc. there are about as many names for condoms as there are different types, however they all do pretty much the same thing: stop pregnancy and STI’s. the condom comes under the barrier method of contraception.
- condoms are normally made out of latex (a fancy name for rubber) and are designed to stop a boy’s semen (aka sperm) from getting too close to the egg in your body. condoms come in all different types and sizes for all different types of guys and gals. most condoms also have a substance called spermacide which kills all the sperm, but won’t harm you or your partner.
- every time you engage in some kind of sex a new condom must be used. condoms are the only type of contraceptives that can stop unwanted pregnancy AND nasty sexually transmitted infections, so they are a very popular contraception choice. according to recent studies condoms are about 98% effective, if you use them the right way.
- the pill i’m talking about here refers to all the oral hormonal method of contraception. the pill is the most popular contraceptive out there and since its introduction in the 60’s almost 200 million women have used the pill. the pill contains certain chemicals (normally the hormones progestogen and oestrogen) that stop your egg from being released by your ovaries. when taken correctly the pill is up to 99% effective in preventing pregnancy. the pill can also make your periods lighter (awesome), less painful (super awesome) and more regular (super super awesome).
- unfortunately using the pill as a method of contraception only stops pregnancy and not STI’s like HIV, chlamydia, gonorrhoea, and herpes etc. the pill can also have some side-effects, such as weight changes, some tenderness in your breasts and a small minority of girls who take the pill report some skin problems. the pill needs to be taken regularly – set your phone alarm or get into a routine – and even one missed pill can cause pregnancy (eeek!!! no!!!). the pill needs to be prescribed by your doctor so chat with them first about the different brands and which one is right for you.
other methods of contraception
- if you are anything like me – i would forget my head if it wasn’t attached to my body – then taking the pill every day might be a big ask. if you want a contraception method that doesn’t come with a social schedule then the contraception implant might be your choice. it is a small piece of plastic that is inserted into your arm, slightly under the skin. it acts pretty much like the pill (except that you don’t have to remember to take it every day) and it can last up to 3 years! it’s only available with a prescription so chat to your GP to see if this is a good option for you.
- a diaphragm is a little like a condom for women. it is a small latex dome that you would fit so that it completely covers your cervix. diaphragms can be re-used (after a little cleaning with some soapy water) but should be left in place for up to 8 hours after sex. the good news is that diaphragms only need to be used during sex but they can be tricky to insert correctly. again, chat to your doctor if you want to go with this option.
- as with all things sex, gossip spreads fast! there is lots of talk about contraceptive techniques that are even less effective than getting boys to do the washing up! the withdrawal contraception method (aka pulling out) is commonly used but defiantly not recommended. with this method your partner withdraws his penis from you just before he climaxes. trust us on this one, stopping during sex will probably be the last thing on his mind so this should be the last contraceptive method on your mind.
- the rhythm method is also known as fertility awareness. this method of contraception works by using your menstrual cycle to have sex at the time of the month when you are the least fertile. women are more likely to conceive at some points of our cycle than others, but knowing the right time is the tricky bit. predicting your period is hard enough – predicting your fertility is about 10 times harder so give this one a miss.
the days of leaving contraception for the guys to look after are well gone, it’s your body and you are going to be the one who worries about the consequences of unprotected sex. if you and your partner think sex might be just around the corner make sure you have done your homework about the consequences. so take matters into your own hands and keep condoms in your purse (don’t just expect him to carry the responsibility of having protection).
i’m not sure how old you are (which would affect which method you will use) but it is so important that you protect yourself from both pregnancy and STIs and i hope you analyse what will be best for you. if you can’t access any other method than condoms because you’re too nervous to approach your parents or go to a GP, then PLEASE use a condom. also, do not do what some people think is “smart” and use more than one condom over the other because there is more of a chance that the condoms will rip if you do that - believe it or not, it’s a thing people do.
i hope i was able to help you. have fun, good luck and BE SAFE!
first off, i’m really glad that you’ve looked at diagrams and tried to really figure this out - a lot of people when confronted with a sexual anatomy problem or issue just like to push it out of their minds and ignore it and it’s incredibly unhealthy!
when you are exploring, make sure to move slowly - the clitoris is very small and you could easily breeze past it. once you’re in vulva territory move to the top part where the two inner labia meet. this is where the clitoris will be and it could possibly be partly or fully covered by a loose stretch of skin known as the clitoral hood.
maybe you could try to rub this spot or if you have a vibrator place a vibrator in that spot and see if you achieve any arousal - maybe your clitoris is just hidden under the clitoral hood??
however if after lots of exploring, you are still not able to find your clitoris or is concerned about not having any sensation, you should really consider speaking with a health care provider!
i hope i helped you and i wish you luck, cupcake!
aw, don’t be shy and self conscious! he should be grateful for you letting him do this to you, you’re an absolute princess!
if you eat plenty of fruit, i can tell you right now you’re probably fine - fruit makes it much more sweeter, drink some pineapple juice especially!
also the best thing i can recommend is having a shower RIGHT before he does it. to quote my good friend, “there is nothing as good as the taste of a freshly washed vagina” and she’s right.
however, even if you DO happen to smell or taste differently, i’m sure he won’t even care and the excitement of being able to pleasure you and make you feel good will shine through and make the worry invalid!!!
good luck and i hope you have fun, cupcake!